So I asked if Evan had any Bday dinner plans. He said "I dont think so". He added he wanted to stop by my house or hang out or something that night. Hmmmm
Apparently they have been taking turns driving to each other all week and decided not to drive to each other on his bday.
Fine by me. I could give him his present. So I told him I would cook dinner for him and give him his present. I also had his favorite chocolates that Gma gave me. So I decided, since no one was around at work, that I'd drop the chocolates off at his work. He sounded a little glum in texting about having no bday plans. I didnt want him to be sad or alone on his bday. (Yes I still care, shut up) I stopped by and gave him the chocolate bday presents and we chatted. He exclaimed "I havent gotten any for christmas this year! No one knows they are my favorite!" Well, I do.
Then I went home and put the chocolate fountain together after work and got out some gummies and bananas and marshmellows to cover in chocolate. I'm not so much into that kind of thing, but I was surprised how good it was and I started eating it for dinner before he came over. I even liked the chocolate covered marshmellows. I thought twice about giving it to him.
He came into the kitchen and it was one of those mouth-drop-open kind of moments or eyes-light-up moments and he's like "best bday present ever!" Thas right. I suppose I was more enjoying eating his present than watching his reaction too much. I wasn't expecting him to be that impressed. Its only a little dinky fountain. He talks about a chocolate fountain every time we go to the reception or see a bride and groom or anything to do with weddings cuz he wants one at his next wedding reception and surely that fountain will be much bigger and better than this thing. I really wasn't expecting him to plan on using it in the near future. I thought he'd put it away and never see/use it again. But the look on his face says otherwise.
We made pizza and watched a movie after eating chocolate covered gummies.
Right after the movie he wanted to clean up his fountain so he could take it home. He was so worried about the maintenance of his fountain. When he got home he texted "I'm so surprised you got me something so cool!" I'm slightly offended by that statement, but whatever. I mean, why is he so surprised? Gift giving is my love language and I happen to think I'm pritti good at it thankyouverymuch. He knows its my love language. And I KNOW him. I KNOW what he likes and doesn't like. Did he really think I would stop gift giving to show I care? Does he think I was supposed un-known the things I know about him? Weirdo.
But I'm glad he had a much better reaction to this gift than I originally thought. I've had this gift since Oct. I knew what he would want/like for months now. But I played it in my head too many times to get a realistic response when he saw it. But it makes me somewhat proud that I got him something he really likes. His girlfriend now is prolly still figuring those things out.
Speaking of girlfriend, and yes I say girlfriend, after he's known her for two weeks. I did not know this whole gf/bf thing until he came over to bday dinner. He said that she said "I'm such a good girlfriend for letting you go to your ex's house on your bday" or something like that. And I'm like "girlfriend?" say what? Its only been like two weeks hasn't it? Do you consider her yer girlfriend? (He didn't really answer that) But hey, I guess Evan is the King of going 'fast' and committment with vacations and such. Apparently she goes a little faster than he does. I wonder how that works out.
They are already kissing and meeting each others family. She going down to his parents house this weekend. It seems that she is the reason they are meeting each others families so fast. She kind of volunteered everyone to go to his parents house. She's the one that first introduced him as her bf and I'm pritti sure she's the one that initiated the first kiss too. But I can't help but giggle knowing what she's in for. The dead-people (pictures) room to sleep in. The boredom that house has and the lack of food (good food) there. The boredom of the children and the long drive. She wants to go and talk (yell) at his Gpa since he went on a mission to Germany. He's like 101 and hard of hearing. I wonder how that convo will go. Well at least someone will be (or seem) happy to go down there with him. Thas a step up from me.
He says she has like 3 weeks of vacation. Thas perfect! Once he gets more vacation time they can go on lots of vacations! But he mentioned that she doesnt like to drive and complains about not having enough gas money. So maybe she doesn't have as much money or doesn't use it wisely enough to vacation with him. And he's not the best long distance driver either. I did most of that. I wonder how the travelling with go with that pair.
And since they are moving so fast and kissing and meeting each others families, maybe she'll want a ring in like 2 months. Apparently she's been married before. Evan and I had a relationship that lasted longer than her first marriage. Red flag? I think so. Gf/bf and kissing after two weeks of meeting? A slight red flag to me too. He claims he wont get married for like 9 months. HA! With the whole attraction/infatuation thing going on and the lack of sex, I'm sorry, but I don't see it happening unless he isn't that attracted to her. And then that would be another problem.
She introduces him as her boyfriend, but I dont think he's done that yet... He says all this stuff she says about him, but he doesn't return the...affection/words. I honestly think he's just using her to he doesn't have to be alone. I don't think he really likes her. But whatever, not my place to judge. I am just really really worried that he'll mess up with this girl. All for nothing. Already kissing after two weeks, this isn't going to get any better or any slower... I can't decide who I would be more mad at tho. The girl that saw him get baptized or Evan for letting a girl take control and influence too far and ruin his membership.
But besides the giggles I get thinking about what she's getting into I feel like asking somewhat rude questions like "What is it like kissing a girl taller than you?" *snicker* "What is it like holding her hand? Are they bigger than yours? Can you wrap your arms around her?" and "What's it like to be with a girl that moves faster in the relationship than you do?" or "What's it like to have a girl manipulate you more than you do?" "Karma is a bitch isn't it?" "How's the long distance relationship?" "How's the sleep going? Or are you sleeping?" "Good thing you got a new car with better gas mileage in order to drive up there to see her all the time!" Oh I could go on and on.
I'm sure she's the kind of girl that will want a ring in the next few months and I wonder who is going to win, they are both pushy and fast and manipulative, but she is the girl and has more influence over him...
Anyways, my new gossip and reporting on his relationship. Hey, give me a break, my life is kinda slow right now. I only have his relationship to talk about. Its kind of interesting to watch it happen. I had one weekend of total depression on letting Evan go. It was more upset of actually meeting her. I did not need that. But if you ask me now I'd say "good riddance! You can have him!" I'm getting excited about being alone again. Even on New Years.
He still thinks I'm reaching out to him or whatever juss cuz I said I'd be with him on his bday. Pff. He thinks I am jealous and/or should fight to have him back or something weird like that. He tries to cuddle me during the movie and I'm like "dude you just said you were kissing another woman. Don't try that." But I still have those moments of "if I can't have him no one can! I'll just have to kill him" and it sends him mixed signals. Hey, what can I say? I'm a little confused too alright. Its not exactly an overnight thing to let go of 3 years. But in the end my decision is final.
I'm somewhat saddened that he found someone that I don't think he really likes, but she gives him what he wants -right now- and the end of this might not turn out so well... And it seems somewhat obvious that he's using her to keep his temporary happiness going. I feel like he'll want to move on in a few months when she's angry there's no ring. But like his predictable pattern he won't let go of her until he has grabbed onto some other girl. Either that or he'll be suckered into marrying her. That seems like such a mess. But hey, its not my problem! At least its not me anymore! Its someone elses turn! I'll run before he grabs onto me again.
So Evan being born in '74, that makes him 39 freakin years old! He's almost 40! And she's 28! And I'm even younger! Thas like 14 years difference for me! And 11 years difference for her! I didn't really ever think of that since when we first met. That was the big subject was the age difference, but I haven't thought about that for like two years now. Evan somehow got it in his head that I'm 26, but I'm not yet. He seriously needs to find someone his own age! I wonder if any one of their families have commented on that aspect.
Us youngins keep him up til like 11 or 12am and he's dead tired the next day at work. He can't stay up and party as long as he used to ya know. He's staying up late to be with her and like 'impress her' or whatever, but its somewhat dangerous to drive that late for that long when tired. Something I learned quickly. He is a morning person. But he keeps up the facade. Thas when I told him he really needs to date ppl his own age. Maybe even with kids too. He's gonna pull a George Clooney and be the perpetual bachelor dating one young girl to the next, never marrying, and if he does marry, by then its gonna be someone his daughters age probably.