You'll only miss the girl that you wanted her to be

Not too sure where to start with this entry. I know what i want to say but how to start it hmmm. Well for starters a week after i witnessed Chantal at the bar I went back to that same bar and met Jill. Our first date was last Sunday and weve been on 3 other dates since. So thats 4 dates in a week. Plus she came out to a Goldeyes game while i was working on Wednesday with her friends, if that counts 5 in the week. I really want to take things slow, and so far thats what we are doing. Last night we went out, went for a walk at the forks and then saw a movie. We went to see Crazy Stupid Love with Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling and a Trevor look a like- Jonah Bobo (google the kid, i swear its trevor). The movie is a romantic comedy. It was pretty long but not too bad of a movie.

When i was driving her home after the movie, she hesitated to tell me something. I guess she hesitated because it was quite the bold statement. She said something along the lines of 'You seem to be the type of guy i thought only existed in movies, the guy that every girl dreams of but doesnt actually exist. I cannot find a single flaw with you'. I was really surprised, I mean thats what i aim for. I want to be that guy that no girl thought existed, but it left me speechless. Im surprised she feels that way about me though. I have been completely honest about everything with her. The things that normally shouldnt be said during the first few dates... were said. I told her i play video games, I enjoy bingo, that i used to be pretty emo and love that music and now im into techno, that i once spent an hour in the fish tank at the casino and made up jobs for each of the fish in the tank... and she still thinks im cool? wtf. Those things are usually super turn offs.

Then when i got home i got some texts from her and she said she really enjoyed the last week of us hanging out and that girls in my past have been crazy n what not, but she assured me that she is not like those other girls. She told me that she didnt think she would be interested in someone again for a long time but apparently theres something about me. Hmmm.

This may all sound like a sure thing, but the only thing for sure in life is that nothing is ever for sure. Ive been burnt many times in the past so imma be cautious. Now normally i wouldnt go into this much detail about a new girl. but theres a catch. Last night while hanging out with Jill i could not stop thinking about Chantal. My theory is that you are over someone only when you can go at least one full day without thinking about them.. Well that day has still yet to come. Everyday i think about her and how much i miss her. But with her being away in Alberta for a week and us not talking for like 2 weeks i was moving on. Just for whatever reason last night i kept thinking of her. I guess it didnt help that we went to see a romantic comedy..

I still remember the first time we met. The second i saw her i knew i needed to talk to her... eventhough she was dancing with another guy. Everything was different with her. It felt right. But ya... when the movie ended everyone left the theater pretty quickly and it left Jill and i in there alone. Thats what Chantal and i used to do, we would wait until we were the last ones in the theater. I didnt do that this time by choice... just happened.

So ya, i dont know how to get over her. After the date i texted her, we haddent talked in about 2 weeks at that point. Tonight we met up at Tim Hortens, first time seeing her since i saw her at Wiskey Dix. I was hoping this would help me get over her. We talked, caught up. It was nice. I think we are going to stay friends. I think that talking to her every now and then and meeting up every once in a while will help. I told her all about Jill too. I could definitely see myself with Jill eventually. Just gotta continue taking it slow though.

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So far im quite happy with us staying friends, i dont think about her nearly as much as i did before.
I think you guys should remain friends. There is no reason not to be. If you can't get over her while she is not there, how can you get over her if she is. Killing two birds with one stone when you get over her WHILE being FRIENDS.
Yeah you got a good girl! Wish I could say a women told me I was perfect lol! Personally though, don't stay friends. I think that will keep reminding you of her, and the good times you have. Cut her out for a little bit, no texting, no seeing nothing. Again, i'm just Dmac....what do I know? lol
I definitely respect that she said that to you, thats very honest. And I must say I envy you, as it has been a long time since i've heard something like that said to me
I am glad someone else takes my honesty approach! I was never one to hide behind who I was, or what I have done. I am very glad it has worked out for you so far! :0
Take it day by day and you'll get to where you want to be. Take care.