Where do I start.. First, I live with my bro, his gf and her daughters. One of her daughters happens to be one of my best friends, we've grown extremely close (especially since I've moved in over there)

Well, this weekend my brother and his gf went camping and left me to watch the house & extra car. The number one rule that I was aware of was no one comes over.. No parties and such but friends that the family knows is fine. Last night I was told otherwise by my best friend. She told me her mom said it was okay for people to come over as long as she was responsible about it and everything was fine. Okay. I didn't argue with it, I'm not going to.

So, she invited some guys over we met the other night. The other night, the guy that she was hanging out with and interested in hit on me. I didn't like it, i felt totally disrespected and I felt like he disrespected her as well. I didn't like that at all. I told her what happened and I explained to her why I was telling her and why I was uncomfortable with the situation. She understood, that night.

Last night she decided to invite them over and I told her she shouldn't take things any further with the guy because it would only make the both of us look stupid and it would give him leverage to continue disrespecting her... I'll be damned if he's going to disrespect me again.. Anyway, she disregarded what I said and "hung out" with him. So I left, I wasn't going to stay at the house with that negative energy. While I was gone I called her to make sure they were going to leave the house. They didn't need to be there period and they definitely didn't need to stay the night. She disregarded that, too. When I called her, it was about 3 in the morning, they were still there and I told her, "I am not comfortable with them staying the night; they need to leave." She said, "I know, okay.. I know, okay." I could tell she was agitated with me because I was asking that of her but I would expect her to consider my feelings and acknowledge that I wasn't comfortable with the whole situation. She didn't.

She's supposed to be my best friend and she put a guy that she met less than a week ago in front of me. That's not a good friend. The thing is, I know she's a good friend and she's capable of being a good friend but when her other friend Sam is involved, she completely forgets about everyone else.

What bothers me the most about this is that I'm upset about her inviting a dude to stay the night that I told her I was uncomfortable with.

How does that make me feel?

What else has she ignored when it comes to being a good friend to me?

Why would she do that to me, period?

I know for a fact that if I was hanging out with a guy and she told me that she wasn't comfortable with him staying the night, I would ask him to leave because she's my best friend and I actually care about her feelings.

I don't know how to feel about the whole situation and I don't know what I should do about it.

No one was supposed to be at the house. She invited some dudes over. After I asked her not to have them spend the night, she did anyway. And the thing is, I don't want to tell her mom all this but her mom needs to know because that's not cool at all. This shouldn't be looked past. It's a big deal to me, even if it's not to her. She has shown me how much I mean to her and that's not at all. I would never intentionally disrespect any of my friends like that and I feel like that's what she did to me.

I'm not looking forward to the talk with her, but she needs to know that she hurt my feelings.

And it's hard for me to say that.

Didn't realize it until the other day..