Men are taught by their fathers or male role models that its not ok to be soft. There are a lot of pressure on young boys. In society today if you don't act tough all of the time then you are going to be called harsh names and put down a lot. Boys do not want to be put down, but want to be one of the guys. Most boys afflict pain on others and its usually violent and its because they have to have this whole tough guy attitude. Boys need to have the control. Boys will say that real men are strong both physically and mentally. If they show a sign of weakness then they are not considered a real man. By the things that young boys are exposed to everyday, they learn how they are supposed to act and look like. Over the past couple of decades, media's representation on how the male should look has changed. Nowadays they are more masculine and their guns have gotten bigger. Normal average looking guys are the same. In the movie, Jackson Katz talked about the Columbine killers. The two kids were tormented and didn't fit in and were bullied by the dominant males. The boys got crap and took things and lives into their own hands. They were average just like everyone else, but because they didn't have this "guise" they were tormented.