there is no possible way to have it both ways i've been there and here and you know what? It's not that different people still judge you people still comment about you people still hate you people are still just as fake as they ever were the only difference is that now, you're supposed to be happy and you're not allowed to have the things that defined you to begin with because it just doesn't fit and no one believes you and nobody wants to hear another sob story except for me, bring it on.