What makes a "friend"?

by missyoung
Feeling: intoxicated
I attended a graduation party this evening of a dear friend's daughter (whom I also count as a dear friend). This is an event that draws the devoted - those devoted to one another as friend and family and both. I loved watching the great variety of kids and adults mingling with each other throughout the night and realized that some of these kids have been great friends since kindergarten. So I ask you tonight, what are the most prominent elements of the friendships you have held the longest? What keeps you tight with someone for years? Give examples! Give detail! I'm curious!
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The fact that we can go weeks without talking and then one day act like nothing is wrong. It's being able to say anything and even if they don't understand they still listen. Its being able to relate to a person, share intrests, and laughter. Six years is my friendship with my best friend. We didn't talk for half a year 'cause of a disagreement but we got over it and act like nothing happened. I take care of her sometimes when she needs it
that’s what i thought. i probably am due for a booster.

the ankle was from when i rolled my jeep down a mountain in the yukon. had to be towed 300 miles to the nearest town. it works ok, but i have to tape it up heavily before i run.

lasting friendships are always based in shared experience. intimate (and sometimes carnal) knowledge. wouldn’t you agree?
-matt
hm...conflict. dont get me wrong, intrests and the like are just as important, but conflict is key. not even open conflict; fighting, aruguing, etc but conflict in personality and that sort. a lasting freindship must stay on the line between freindship and dislike.
Nina, Krystyna, Katie Miller, and I have been friends for a while. In 8th grade I fell into a depressed stage and started cutting. We had AE together in the band room so I took them in the practice room to finally tell them and we all sat there crying for a while. I think a friend is someone that will feel your pain with you and help you through it. They'll enjoy the good times too though.
Carla
well i don't know about "for years" i have moved 10 times since i was born, but i have been friends with Ryan for four years, that is pretty cool, mostly we are friends becasue we have alot in common and we are always there to keep each other's hobbies alive, plus we talk and hang out alot, we have much of the same views, basically good friends is just how much you interact and are involved with the person
Hmm...a friend. This is actually really difficult for me to comment on. I mean, I have a lot of friends, but all for different reasons. I suppose it's common ground I find with these people I surround myself with; I tend to change to another group based on how I feel. But those few who are my best friends are the ones who can make me happy no matter what the situation. I truly only have a few (3 or less) of those.

Kyle :D
What makes a friend...a hard question. Sam has been my friend since 4th grade; she's the one person I could talk to about anything. A friend is someone who never judges unfairly, but will tell you when you're being stupid. Mostly a friend is someone you can act your silliest around and feel no embarassment because they're probably doing the same thing. You don't share every aspect of your lives together, but there are common intrests.
I found a "Friendship" poem online awhile ago, and I think it fits perfectly...check out my diary to read it!
The elements of true friendship have eluded me for years. i dont talk to people well and dont relate to them so i keep few friends, and it seems they are getting fewer.
ben