I've added another to my collection. I still have the last one who I will call Malfoy because his name is Drake and he's a towheaded entitled little one percenter.... But he's not completely villainous I think he's just had a lot of advantages he doesn't really appreciate.
I have added GI Joe who didn't exactly offer a friends with benefits situation so much as a limited time offer of intimacy both physical and emotional as he is in an "open relationship" with a long distance love. So it's like he's looking for a surrogate for the in person connections he's missing right now.
GI Joe is also very young... actually younger than Malfoy by a couple years however he's had a much rougher go at it so he's mature and when talking with him he doesn't feel any younger than me at all. He's a sweet, intelligent, vulnerable, little wounded puppy who just want's to play for a couple of months before he moves again.
We went hiking last weekend which is what I think sold me, because if I can get a hiking buddy out of it- it's worth it! I did slip and fall on my way down the rocks to the creek and hurt my hand pretty bad though not bad enough to get it checked out.
This weekend he invited me to the game night he hosts at his apartment. I think it was one of the truly most graciously hosted dinner party sort of thing I've been to hosted by a peer. He had a variety of people playing games and he had made a lot of actually really impressive, tasty, and healthy foods. I did spend the night and he is definitely good at what he does lol but he does also have a lot of sex baggage that I don't really know what to do with. He's very open about some issues that he has and I am not judging him on it at all I love that he owns a problem and tries not to let it own him but I just feel unsettled that I'll say the right [enough] thing sometimes.
I do really like feeling needed. I don't feel like he needs me yet but he has enough issues that I'm wondering if it will get there.
I'm not sure what you're after: if you just want to have some funbuddy for a while of if you're secretly trying to hook the fun buddy up finally to you. You wrote that you're fine if you're getting a hiking friend out of the f*friendship, but between the lines in both postings i read that you need to be needed. Hopefully you're not getting tangled in something which hurts you. I hope a older guy is gonna pass your way ;-)
- be well and take care