its horrible that i feel like i've accomplished something because of the fact that now he wants me and i will never look his way again.... ----- now when i read this i have no idea what i was talking about? ------ what are the rules to friends dating their friends ex's or ex hookups? do they apply to those friends hookups even though they had a boyfriend at the time of that hookup? that doesn't make a whole lot of sense...but its just because its that messy. you can't claim everyone...can you? apparently she thinks she can - - - - - - - - - obsessions are repeated, persistent, unwanted ideas, thoughts, images or impulses that you experience involuntarily and that appear to be senseless. These obsessions typically intrude when you're trying to think of or do other things... when i was younger my therapist told me she wasn't sure if i was obsessive or compulsive but she thought i was more obsessive. that sounds horrible, doesn't it? i think so. i also think she was right. i am completely obsessive. i take that back, not completely...well maybe, but i definitely can see why she said that then and it has manifested itself into other areas of my life. too bad its not a productive kind or else i wouldn't be doing so horribly in my classes. i don't adjust well and i think thats where it tends to stem from and show its ugly obsessive side. its not something i notice, though, until its too late. i need some sort of relaxing mechanism. so i can let things go easier and not stress or become anxious. tonight is another night and i need to make this one right.