I heard something today where someone basically decided they knew how to teach " how to get a guy 101" for instance these were they're "key things" * create interest * give him a taste (a little kiss, "leave him asking for more") *make self unavailable *make a ticking clock (like a time limit he has to "catch" you) but here is my thoughts on this what is the use of playing a game to make some guy fall for something he " cant" have because then when he gets it wont all of the attraction be gone anyways if he was in if for just the chase what makes you think he's there for the relationship after the chase. How do you know if its "true love" or trickery? If he loves you or you just made him think he was head over heels for you because of the game you played. what if you made him make his decision too fast, which in my opinion should not be made lightly. How do you know if he loves being with you or the fact that he like that no one else is with you? Do we make ourselves find "love" where it cant be found, because its what we were taught to strive for? We need to think that love is real and but what we really need is to think of why we are in the relationships we are in. If we are there because its "true love" or because we are classically conditioned. we see love all around us and are taught to try and find it to be happy. But what if because of this we take our feelings to extremes and make it seem better than reality because we strive for the dream relationship. Make the flirting, attraction, security, self confidence and lust into fake feelings of love. Maybe love is uncommon and we try too hard to find love, in turn making lust seem more like love, only trying to make our selves feel more lucky to have found "love". Really its just your insecurities calling it love while deep down your screaming to get out. deep down you hate the way he simply breathes, hate the way he calls you sweetheart, hate every single time he tries to hold your hand. eventually you realize you hate the way your insecurities made you feel as if you ever had any feelings for him once so ever. Then you find it harder and harder to find things you once loved because they are no where near as easy to find as the dreadful imperfections in him you see. He then becomes paper-thin to you, you can see threw everything he does. However. Here is where you stop and think.... maybe the problem is you. He's just trying to be sweet and trying his best to "keep" you. (which in all reality I hate that phrase. because no one will keep me I will always do what I choose.) But is it your problem because you are thinking that your insecurities are making you choose a guy that is totally wrong for you..... or could it be just the opposite and your insecurities are making you second guys yourself and you are pushing away the perfect guy? The mind is a crazy thing. now your at a fork in the road and don't know what side to choose to go with where you started or go with a feeling telling you the relationship is all wrong? but if you take the second one who's to say that you are not screwing yourself over subconsciously because you seem to like to change your mind. do you really like him or do you not. or here's a third option do you really not like him and feel your subconscious telling you that but stick with him because you think that subconsciously you are trying to push away something that could be great? I know I may have confused you a bit. like I said the mind is a crazy thing. But then again the heart is crazy too so which do you choose your heart or your mind. One will choose the wrong thing. But whose to say the "wrong" choice is always wrong. Many decisions you make can lead you into something you never really wanted but maybe it wasn't that you didn't want it you just never knew you did because you never saw it as an option. The wrong choice can lead to a new perspective on life, on love, on over all everything. So whose to say any choice is really "wrong" because it might turn out to be better than you would think in the long run and how could that be wrong. I feel like in trapped in a world where something is nothing and nothing is something. where things intertwine and become more obvious yet also more foggy. where my mind will think something and then my heart chimes in with a contradiction. Its a blur of thoughts and you cant seem to straighten them.