How do you know when you are over someone? And can other people determine whether or not you are still head over heels for them? I don't think anybody knows but yourself. People can go on for years missing that someone but keeping it inside and no one would notice. So what why are these other people blessed with the knowlege and insight to other peoples pain? The truth is, there is no such knowlege. They can only assume. They think maybe there hasn't been enough time, maybe you didn't cry enough, or maybe you didn't go through the kind of thing that they and everyone else goes through in otder to get over someone. But everyones situation is diffrent. There is no right or wrong way to heal and move on. What is moving on? Is it that one person who you hook up with in order to get your ex out of your mind? And if you say no to that oppertunity are you still obsessed with your ex? Some may come to that conclusion, but not me. Moving on to me is loosing the spark, the butterfly's, and realizing that there is life without them. Some people move on faster than others, some hurt for a long time. Everyone is diffrent. It all depends on the relationship; how long you were with them and how much you REALLY cared for them. I emphasize REALLY because when you are in a relationship that you think is perfect you usually will not admit it had flaws until it is over. Friends and family may say that they know you aren't over that someone and that they can just tell, and they are entitled to their own opinions, but they have no idea. I have seen people accuse their best friends of not being over their EX. But how do they know? And do they realize that it may hurt their friend and put their friend between a rock and a hard place? Now that friend has two choices, to take the criticism and remain silent while holding a grudge towards those friends for not believing them or saying something even though they know that they are going to be put down and given the obvious looks. It is a sad position to be put in. And it may leave you questioning your friends. Do they really know you (because when they make those assumptions it's hard to look and them and thing "those are my friends")? And more importantly.. why do they think they know you better than you know yourself? Something to ponder.. ~Jessica*~