So, I’m still dating the same guy I was dating for the past 2 and a half years. But as of recently things have hit a "rough patch". so there’s this girl, lets call her Julia *lol her actual name* and say she has been getting close to your current boyfriend whom you have been with for a significant amount of time(say over a year). *plus he clearly knows she likes him, and still hangs out with her* That is NOT the entire problem. It’s the fact that he lives 75 miles away where I can not visit anytime I damn well please. however she lives like 5 frickin’ miles from his house. They stay up late chatting into the wee hours of the night. so... now he has already been with holding his "feelings" about when I piss him off. So as of lately things haven’t been normal or even close. he says he’ll leave if I don’t change. But when I told him he had problems I needed to be fixed he tried but gave up and nothing ever came of it. So why do his problems toward me override mine toward him? Plus lately he has been drinking small amounts of alcohol. and I’m worried that something happen between him and Julia, and I‘ll be the one to get hurt again. I at one point wanted him to change for me, but over the past few months I’ve accepted how he acts and such to the point where I’m back to being crazy about him. I used to not want to think about marriage and etc. but now I don’t see myself marrying anyone else. Actually I’m looking forward to it. Obviously after I graduated college and we had 2 years or so to get our careers together. But now I’m about to loose him because of Julia, and her selfishness. he has this obsession with making everyone happy, even if he hasn’t known them long or helping them may hurt someone whose closer. hence the Julia situation. She really likes him and wants me gone... but obviously I’m not something you can clearly delete. When I happen to go down there next and she’s there I’m going to be all nice and normal and good girlfriendy. but as soon as she steps over the tiniest line I’m going to loose it. I have already decided what I’m going to say*I have a lot to think about before I got to sleep sometimes ^_^* "I know you have this thing for James, and your hoping hell leave me. well if and when that happens by all means have him. But until then fuck off because I don’t need you making our relationship harder." I made this analogy a couple of times to him. If there’s a guy and he’s addicted to crack. And he wants to get his life back together to first thing he does is get away from the crack. Right? isn’t it the same for when a guy feels that a girl (who is not his girlfriend) is getting a little too close to the point where its straining his and his girlfriends relationship? Shouldn’t I be more important that a girl you met about 4 months ago?? I’ve helped you through so much shit and vice versa. So why is this stupid girl making our relationship so hard?? I hate her and her vegan self.