(I had to vent. Most of this doesn't make sense, but I can't tell her what I'm thinking. Not all of it anyway.) I've known Brandy most of my life. Her grandparents and my grandparents did everything together. When my dad got transfered to the grocery store in the town we live in now (when I was in 3rd grade), Brandy's dad worked there too, so our families got alot closer. Brandy got married like 6 years ago and moved away, so we never saw each other. Until she got the job as my aide. It's funny how things work out. Brandy and I get along so well because we're alot alike. Our personalities are almost identical; we have the same sense of humor, the same temperament, the same thought patterns, all that. We already know what kinds of things will piss the other one off, so we never fight. We can look at each other across the room and know exactly what the other one's thinking. And still, I don't understand her.... Here's some background information on Brandy: she was a wild child. She had her first child her junior year in highschool. She later met and man that fell in love with both her and her daughter, then they had 2 more children. He was in an accident on the ranch where he worked and lost his legs. After this, he became emotionally and mentally abusive, to Brandy and her children. So after 5 years of marriage, she divorced. She's been divorced for a year now. She's had 2 actual boyfriends in this year, and several flings. SEVERAL. Like, we'd go to a club and one of my other friends would bring me home because she wanted to go home with this dude she just met. I've told her I don't understand why she does it...there's so much risk. It's so...gross. And then she wonders why people talk about her. About 2 months ago, Brandy and I were at a club with friends. We met Mikey, who Brandy's best friend has been trying to set Brandy up with for 6 months. Well, Brandy didn't take much interest and picked up another guy. They occasionally talked on the phone, but nothin big. Well, about a month ago, Brandy had a date with another guy. It didn't end up the way she wanted (basically he got what he wanted and told her to go) so she called Mikey and went to see him. Then spent the night. Then never left. Now, after a month, they're planning their wedding. Now, I want Brandy to be happy. Her face lights up when she talks about him. But I don't understand how you can go from taking home a different guy every night to saying you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone. Especially someone you JUST met. I want to believe she can do it, but her actions aren't showing me she will. We went to a club Thursday night, and when she was talking to some of our guy friends, she didn't tell them she had a boyfriend. Even when they flat-out asked. One of the guys she hooked up with awhile back is onshore (he works offshore 2 weeks at a time) and she's going to meet him at the club Wednesday night. I'm afraid she's not going to be faithful. She's just entirely too excited about seeing this guy. And on top of all this, Brandy doesn't like Mikey's daughter. She says she does, but she's doing all she can to convince Mikey to not let her live with them. I have a feeling Mikey's gonna see what Brandy's doing and decide he doesn't want her in their lives. I just really don't want to see her hurt. I do hope this works because I don't want her to get back into the "different guy every night" thing. I want her to clean up her act, to realize she's so much better than that, that she doesn't need to sleep with guys to be desired. WAKE UP!