hermm..... i am at a loss for words. i have recently come to the decision to stop dating. at least until i know that there is a possibility of marriage. i can't even explain it the way i want to. i know none of my friends - at least my non-christian ones- will be able to understand. see, i think that dating with no intention of marriage is both pointless and selfish. it is selfish because it merely is satisfying your want to be loved and fulfilled. it is a mockery to what God defined love as.it is self-serving and pointless, because what other reasons for dating is there than to find who "the one" is? having a good time? that's using the other person and playing with their emotions for your own selfishness comes in. even if both people are just out to a good time, it's still making a mockery of love. and i dont want that.