tHe AfTeRmAtH........

Listening to: The AC blowing....
Feeling: worthless
so, me and my dude didn't brake up... we did have a serious convo though... me telling him what bothers me about him and him telling me... he did most of the criticizing though... and thats why i only posed his part... mine was just me saying not to push me away cause it makes me feel like shit... at the end, nothing was really accomplished... we just bitched for awhile till he went to sleep... anyway, here it goes...: so... do i do something u sometimes don’t like? yea *holds hands over eyes and peeks through fingers* dimelo :-) "kid" around about doing stuff with other guys flirt online even though u say its all games hang with EX's who still want to get with u hang with guy friends who still wanna creep most of these i mention are from wat i have to find out wats going on in ur life or head when im too busy too find out, i do this at school, late night home i wanted to talk about this in person, but since this up coming week is turning to be kinda crappy cuz of a full week of work and school, even on my b-day. i wanted to hang yesterday to vent, but now im just tired what u mean? u going through the stuff i write online? u should be worried when i start hiding things... like getting a new diary or myspace... my friends know im joking and they don’t touch me, so u shouldn't worry.... hanging out with them shouldn't be a problem cause if i wanted them now, i wouldn't have started dating u words shouldn't bother u... actions should yea u tell me this, but then i go off and read up on u, and u write flirt stuff and put up icons of 2 guys on a bed saying good times is something that just might bug me the wrong way, and i dislike the way its making me feel like im snooping round when im just checking up on u. clicking on each profile who u "flirt" or chat to whose profile was this? maybe i could explain it more... or not yea word and actions are completely different i don’t know the name i was just reading and saw u chat and put some icon up of 2 guys in a bed w/ a heart saying good times did u see all the icons i put up also? only like less then 5 are sexual... u have to see the big picture, not just little things... have u ever been cheated on? sorta, never found out. and just to be deep in thought of thinking is the person ur with cheating on u is a helluva time so tell me about ur side of the big picture, cuz right now im either lost or ur not seeing my pov i don’t cheat! i never cheat! i was with my bf for 3 years... him never being around... me knowing he was probably cheating on me, but i still stood fateful... it would take "my true love showing up" (no not jc or anyone i know) and sweeping me off my feet for me to come close to all that..... b4 i cheat, i would dump u first.... its really that simple... and i expect the same from u just because all these talk shows and crap hint that this person is cheating if they do this and that and then u look for that in what u read, doesn't make it true....... they don’t know me..... i would be the biggest hypocrite if i do.... yea, but from my POV ..me a guy that has betrayed a friend a very close friend for some chick, for sex right now a lot of Morals and saying and all the faithful stuff don’t mean much as b4 then i should be the one worrying about u cause for my 22 years of life, i've never ever betrayed anyone or cheated on anyone.... from my pov me being selfish or me just having an expectation of you providing ur 2 cents for helping this relationship work better is to at least cut a lot of that stuff down cuz im not saying that im just here taking everything maybe i am but i don’t know true, but im not walking that same path im not losing another friend cuz of a betrayal from me that’s all good and all, but how is u betraying someone my fault... ask anyone i know and they will tell u all i am is talk... they will also tell u in person we don’t talk the same way we do online... if u really wanna know what i am like with them, just attach a tape recorder on me and u'll see its completely different from online i don’t have to talk to anyone u know, even if i do i wont trust em, like that guy that fucking had nerve of giving me pound and once i left start flirting with you or an ex bringing cup cake for the steal im trusting you, but all these lil things are just driving me to just feel like a snoop who gave u pound? and the snoop always Thinks wrong of course that fat chubby kid the kid u took Virginity from the day u went to the movies to see war of worlds ohh... yeah... that’s like less then 10% of our convo though... and i always roll my eyes or something at him.... and my ex brought me a cupcake and candle cause i was complaining that i wont get to blow out the candle on my bday since we broke up, i seen him like 3 times... we broke up almost 4 months ago.... and yet u mention on ur diary or myspace that he still tries to get with u and u think ima be thinking clearly after i read that? he showed up one day and did that..... and u know what i did? i didn't let him cause i have a man then yesterday i read that (b4 we talked) said i was silly and other stuff for telling u was gonna break up with cuz of a pierce and saying it my loss and u aint stressing it, and telling some other cat in myspace the same, god damn i feel like shit just reading and talking about this shit it all comes down to if u trust me or not..... guys are pervs to begin with..... if the girl says no, then its no.... and of course i was pissed the fuck off... u told me u were gonna dump me over a piercing... how u think that made me feel? i felt like u didn't give a shit about me and would just leave me outta nothing especially cause u didn't call the whole day for the first time since we got together so now where on the same level now, now u know why ive been distant quiet and anything else i thought u dumped me by not calling anymore not calling anymore i am always calling, i can only name one time i didn’t call and that’s the day i work came home at 1 to go to school the next day what i mean is that day when u didn't call... i thought that was u telling me its over...... since u said the day b4 that u would leave me if i got the piercing and i told u im getting it u thought, so u still wouldn’t call to find out or something? it was late.... i knew u get home at random times, so i didn't wanna wake up ur parents.... i was gonna write u the next day.... and u say u were tired and that’s why u didn't call, but u always tired and u still call.... so i don’t get it i mean at least call early , i would call back if ud call, but u didn’t so i just went straight to bed like that day today im tired, and not at a right mood i don’t like calling and getting them telling me u not home..... if u had a cell, i would call all the time.... why is it bad to find out? u could call me and know im either sleeping or i'll pick up not that... i feel weird talking to ppl's parents..... that’s why i hardly call anyone i know.... i either want to talk to them or leave a message in their voicemail so i wait for u to get online or call unless i think u home and when u don’t call (like that day) and im here waiting and thinking evil thoughts, then i get pissed and wonder "what is it about me that makes me so forgettable"..... i wrote that in my away message that day and the next just cuz i didn’t call doesn’t mean i forgot about u or anything should i think that if u don’t call? no cause im the one with the cell... whenever u want to talk (if im awake), all u gotta do is call... i don’t have the same privilege cause u don’t have one... if u get one and i don’t call, then u should worry look right now im not gonna get a cell and i wont be getting one for a good while from now so then u should just call me..... and if im 100 % sure u home, i'll call u 1 its annoying, 2 i already owe and i don’t want to owe no more, 3 ima spent more time on phone instead of doing other things yea there are more good sides to it but just naming those 3 are a definite no on the phone like i said... u just have to call me then.... and if i know u home, then i'll call u... man this thing is getting more to of a chore when i read that, i call cuz i wanna talk with you, not cuz i have to or know wats up with ok.... the only reason we even talking about phones is cause u didn't call the day after u said u were dumping me.... and that just caused some otherness... if u don’t wanna talk on a specific day, u don’t have to... im not forcing u to do anything... it was just bad timing "that day" and the main reason i like hearing from my "bf" everyday is cause i had someone who showed up once a month or less, so im iffy when humans don’t call... had someone show up? i mean, i had a dude who only showed up when he felt like it and now im iffy with my other relationships just like ur past dictates how u live ur life, so does mine.... um... u there? yea just sitting back on chair thinking too much don’t think so hard... this dating thing isn't so hard... just be around each other a little more then other humans... kiss and hug... and only actually be with each other (unless u swingers) u the only human i actually tell everything (EVERY LIL DETAIL) to, and i don’t think that’s working.... i guess u just gotta keep ur guy in the dark about a couple things yea that’s gonna help ok... so i wont tell u the things u probably don’t wanna know... but about my online friends, u just gotta either stop reading my stuff or know that online life is way different then "real" life i wont adapt, ill just let it be, but i just know im tire of it if i do keep reading which ima try to avoid then just avoid it.... cause if i have to start censoring myself, then it wont be me talking anymore..... and i like u, but i also like having my friends around too... and even if they are guys and u don’t trust them cause of "our history", u just have to believe i wont do u dirty u think u can believe in me? ?? i believe that’s all i can do that’s all u really need to do..... if u trust me, then u wouldn't have to get all jealous and possessive and crap..... cause u would no that im not doing anything.... talk is nothing as long as i "only go home to u".... meaning, as long as u the only one i actually let touch me and all that bf/gf stuff.... but if u just saying u trust me and don’t really believe urself, then we have bigger problems then me.... u need to evaluate urself... don’t be like "otello" who let his suspicions take over his whole way of seeing his girl *my english teacher would be so proud of me right now* What’s the moral of the story kids? Well, it’s that dating sucks… LOL… Sad, but true… Nothing could ever just “BE”… Everyone’s always worried about this and that and if nothing bad is happening; they make it up in their heads so that they will have something to not be happy about… I hate having to always defend my reputation cause of insecurities… I know I'm not doing anything and that’s why I don’t hide anything… I guess guys like to be kept in the dark… I’m not saying I don’t have my moments of jealousy and paranoia too… I’m just saying that I know the difference between the craziness in my head and what’s really going on… Another thing is, why do guys always gotta pick at the small stuff? It’s like with a scab… You know for it to heal, you just gotta leave it alone, but u cant help but keep picking at it… pick… PICK… P…I…C…K… Just keep on picking until it gets infected and then you’re screwed… It’s like they want something to happen, just so they could be like: “YOU SEE!! I KNEW IT!!!”
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it is hard...there are all of these worlds that you have to beat in my pac man game
why thank you.
:)
(ps...i dunno you either. :])
Nice Escher picture.
thanks. mine is wildgurl309. can't you tell i was like 12 when i picked that out? i would never spell it like "gurl" anymore. i despise that. hehe
its true. i'm too chicken to do that. plus i think that would be too nosy-ish. ya know what i mean? hey do you have msn or aim? just cause talking via this is well ... messenger would just be more efficient i think.
too bad he doesn't have a cell phone. hehe. and i only talked to his brother. i don't know if his parents know where he is. i'll just try calling later if he doesn't call me. i 'll give him til 4. hehe. i'm such a bitch. giving him time limits. oh well.
yah i just hope he's ok. i'm not mad at him for not being around i'm just worried about him.
its true. boys are dumb. why do we have to love them so much? i haven't talked to my boyfriend in 3 days. i left for a weekend trip with my dad and when i came back i tried to call him but i can't find him. he's not at his house and he's not with the guys he usually stays with. sorry i'm rambling ... good luck with your boyfriend.
well then i don't know what to tell you. i'm sorry that this is happening. i hope things get better for you.
can i add you to my friends list and you can add me to yours?
it is a hard game!!
lol i thought you were being sarcastic!! i can't do the regular one either lol.

♥ steph
yeah thats me in the pic on my diary and i was just wondering do i look ugly
maybe if you try avoiding him for a few days. well not avoiding him but each of you take some time for yourselves, figure out what you guys really want. then talk to each other. i've never really had that happen in a relationship so i don't know what to say. once again it might just be stupid high school advice but ...
i'm really sorry that that is happening between you two. you can take this as stupid teenager advice but i would definately talk to him about it. tell him how you feel. if you really like him and he really likes you you might be able to work something out. othr than that i don't know what to say ...
i forgot to ask. did you write that poem thing at the beginning of your diary? cause i really liked it.
i wouldn't feel dumb about being worried that he didn't call you that one day. it bothers me too. i hate it when my boyfriend doesn't call when he is supposed to. its my biggest pet-peeve. it is ok to have arguments though. i think they make the relationship stronger. don't ask me how, but that is what i think. but i hope everything works out ok for you two.
wow... that all seems so confusing :S
Fuck TV. lol. I hate TV. It blows.
oh ok
so i take it you live in kansas
oh yeah fuck yeah
no i live in kansas

and old people used to be the only ones wearing speedos down here until me and my friends got them. you should check out my firend firecrouch27 diary. his pic is on his.
oh thats cool that you were honest to me cause you're the first to say that but i think some people were just being nice. i just wear that under my shorts unless i go swimming or im showin it off but yeah.