this is a letter from Nick's ex Jacqueline: Hey, I'm pretty sure I'm just about the last person you'd like to hear from at this point, and I definitely don't expect you to respond. I'm trying to be very neutral in this situation and I want you to know I harbor you no real bitterness. However, I thought you should know a few things before you get involved with Nick, person to person. Throughout our relationship Nick has been very unfaithful to me. There was the emotional adultery with you, he also slept with his ex-girlfriend Tammy in the first 6 months we were together, he pressured me into an open relationship with the threat of splitting up while we were in Edmonton together, he also sought out sexual partners on Craigslist without me knowing, which is not only disrespectful but extremely dangerous not only for me but for my son as well (I'm breastfeeding still, so any diseases I have pass through my milk and into him). He's also been extremely disrespectful in the sense that he will do things like buy flowers for a girl at work, tell her she's beautiful, so on and so forth. He did things throughout our relationship like, for example, not allowing me to cry because it 'annoyed him' when my best friend passed away. Not once did he let me cry in my arms. He's also done things recently as a father that make me question his ability as a father; getting someone else to care for Demitri while he dicked around the only time he had him overnight so I could relax. He also spent the money he was supposed to give me for child support on his bus ticket to Calgary and hasn't even bought Demitri a Christmas present yet! He also bought a $1000 guitar, his Paul Allender, and has had to beg borrow and steal money from everyone in sight to make ends meet; he hasn't even been able to buy his son diapers. On top of all that... Nick goes to you because he feels that you are the one person that will always accept him. I don't mean to be rude, but you are not some amazing special person that is the girl of his dreams. He puts you an a pedastle because he feels he can fall back on you when all his other plans fail. He NEEDS to have a back up plan in a relationship, because he needs that validation. I don't doubt that you two have chemistry and compatibility, but Nick really needs to be healthy as a person before he has any business being with anyone. Anyways... I don't expect you to heed my advice because you probably think I'm the crazy ex, which is fair enough. It's possible that you two are made for each other and will be incredibly happy and live out the rest of your lives in paradise... but I won't lie, it's not at all likely, with the person Nick is. It hasn't been this way with just me. He has cheated on, and left every one of his girlfriends with at least the intention or back up plan with being with someone else. Nick and I will never be together, ever again, and that is a decision I have made... so it doesn't really matter to me what he does any more. I promise I'm not trying to make him or you unhappy, just warning you as I hoped someone would have warned me. If you doubt any of my credibility ask Kevin, he knows all of our secrets. Feel free to message me back if you wish. Cheers Ashley (me): Today at 7:29am hello.... im actually surprised to hear from you... i definatly will take into concideration everyhting you have said. he is just down visiting and NOT on a romantic level. i have a boyfriend. which he was very hurt to hear about but it happens. i must agree with you that i am not an amazing person who is perfact in every way. and i hope one day he realizes that too/. i think he should concintrate and put lots of thought into his actions of parenting. i've heard alot of things you've mentioned and i don't really agree with it. however it did happen and hopefully after his visit he will be more ok with being a father. i think he is just scared... like worried (excuse any spelling errors) i mean he is (just as you are) new to this. anyways.... i hope that weather you two are togetehr gaain or not thta you keep a healthy relationship for Demitri's sake. feel free to message me back... Later Days