7:13pmKimberly
hey how are you
7:13pmAshley
im ok and yourself?
7:13pmKimberly
pretty good jsut waiting on this kid to come out
7:14pmAshley
haha no kidding.
im excited
7:18pmKimberly
me too just not excited for josh not to be there
i sure in the hell am not ready to do this on my own but i guess im going to have to be the mom and the dad
7:21pmAshley
im doing some stuff on my comp
so if it shuts down then yea.... haha
7:21pmKimberly
okay
maybe you should text him and talk to him
7:26pmAshley
umm i could try
what am i talking to him about
7:27pmKimberly
him being there as a father
like its either he starts caring and being concerened since i have been in the hospital since lastnight or i just dont want him around period ill get my stuff back from him then he can just get outta my and my sons life
7:28pmAshley
oh i see. well i ushually don;t talk to him much since he is always working
7:29pmKimberly
hes not working tonight nor tomorrow
there is no reason that when i text him to tell him what is going on he should text me and tell me to leave him the hell alone like is that what he is going to be when i call him and tell him im in labour
Ashley
oh? hmmm well ill try to get a hold of him then
7:29pmKimberly
ok
7:30pmAshley
hmmm yea..... fair enough
7:30pmKimberly
like if this is the way he is going to be then i dont want him around at all
like his dad said lastnight we dont need to work on a relationship we need to work on a friendship and have this crap sorted out for the sake of the baby cause if we cant get along now how will we get along when the baby is here
7:39pmKimberly
like honestly if he cant be decent to me then why should i be decent to him....like if him and i are going to fight then he wont be able to come see the baby thats the last thing i need when i just give birth to a kid or will be giving birth to a kid
7:46pmKimberly
kinda understand
7:51pmAshley
he isn't answering
7:51pmKimberly
figures
7:53pmKimberly
well if this is the way he is going to be i dont want him around at all.......
like its only fair right
7:59pmKimberly
did you think its fair?
8:05pmKimberly
you know him better then i do what do you think i should do about it
8:35pmKimberly
what do you think i should fo
do
8:41pmKimberly
did you get ahold of him at all?
8:45pmKimberly
i dont think my doctor is very happy wwith him that he has not called at all today so i doubt he will be aloud around when baby is born or anyone with contact to him
8:59pmKimberly
you can let him no if he will answer u my doctor would like to speak with him
9:32pmKimberly
did you get ahold of him?
9:32pmAshley
gah. yea breifly, he's working though.
sorry my comp is having issues.
i think i fixed it
or hes working weird he said he wasnt going to work today
9:33pmAshley
ya but its busy season
very true....did you tell him i was still in the hospital?
9:34pmAshley
yea. he had to go though.... so it was a very short convo
like i understand its busy season but this is his kid his own flesh and blood
9:35pmAshley
yea, but i don;t mean to be rude, but if your not even going ot let him see it then i wouldn;t car eeither.
9:36pmKimberly
i want him to see the child thats why i am have been pushing so much but him ignoring even the doctors calls why should he even get a chance
like not even my doctors can get ahold of him
9:37pmAshley
yea well neither can i.
9:38pmKimberly
its pathetic cause i call him or text him and tell him the doctor is going to call he says okay and then he dont answer
9:38pmAshley
i guess but he has to work too you know. i mean he is a single dad. he has Taylor
9:39pmKimberly
like everyone down here is telling me im wasting my time trying ot get him to be a father cause he will never be a father to this child and i am starting to think they are right....they also tell me he got rid of me before this baby came so he dont have to take reponsiblility just like he got rid of bev
Ashley
i don;t know if they still are but they still talked
9:42pmAshley
i guess. i think that being a father to the baby has nothign to do with the problems you two are having emotionaly with each other. nor dose it reflect his ability. i think your mad at him and you have evry right to be.... and im sure its really scary with this huge responcibility on your hands. but part of being a mother is trying to the end to work stuff out with the father. your baby needs to see his father. and regardless if Josh cares or not you should be trying everythign you can to make sure Josh sees the baby
9:44pmKimberly
he has hardly even bought anything for this kid he bought a snow suit for him..... see little things like that make me wonder if he will ever be apart of this kids life.....and i have tried EVERYTHING i have tried to talk to him call him text him just to tell him how my doctors appointments went and he dont answer like i am not going to call him on the day i go into labour and have him yell at me or hang up on me and thats what he does when i call him or he calls me
i even tried to get him to talk to me for this DNA test he wants i found a place that charges 450.00 for a DNA test you gotta drive a bit but who cares and he wont even talk to me about that
9:46pmAshley
so he's mad or something. then let him do his own thing. have the bay and then descuss. him comming to see you has nothign to do with the baby.
yes your having the baby.... but when the baby is born is crunch time
9:48pmKimberly
i have done literally everything to try and include him in...i dont want to work on a relationship like everyone thinks we should i want to work on a friendship if we cant get along now then how in the hell are we supposed to get along after this baby is born...i dont want him to come see me honestly i just want the rest of my shit out of his house so i can get totally movesd and settled into my house
Ashley
you have never had a kid. so you can;t sit there and say "how can he be there if he isn;t there now"
you may never get along.
but its about the baby, not you two and your petty fights
9:49pmKimberly
we never get along and trust me he wont be coming to my house to see the kid....we dont fight over the shit we used to we fight over him not caring about this fucking kid
we dont even talk about the crap that used to happen he gets mad when we talk about this kid...and its getting stupid....like i have gotten to the point where i dont even feel like telling him anythin no more
we dont even talk about the crap that used to happen he gets mad when we talk about this kid...and its getting stupid....like i have gotten to the point where i dont even feel like telling him anythin no more and protecting him from the lies and shit like that and the people who are going to hurt him but at the same time i feel obligated i have to tell him the things thats going on with the kid weather its test results or anything like that
Ashley
wlel do what you feel is best. but i can tell you no matter what you tell the kid, he won;t forgive you for it.
im just the sunt no matter what. no matter if you let me see him or not. that is my title and it always will be
9:56pmKimberly
i anit going to tell him nothing i have made that clear that i wont be rude or put down his father in front of him and i have made it clear to my family that if they do they will not be aloud around the child... i know what it did to me when my family did that to me i dont want him to go through it too
9:57pmAshley
hmmm good. that is a wise choice.
im going to let him figure out who his father is and what his father has done for himself
Ashley
fair enough
9:58pmKimberly
but i know it wont take long considering what town i live in god i walk in a store and no one has anything nice to say about josh and calls me retarded to let josh in the babys life
9:59pmAshley
my advice, don;t text or c all Josh untill the babies head is sticking out. or you had the baby. and let him listen to the baby.
10:00pmKimberly
no cause i want my shit out of his house so when he gets down here to meet his son i wont have to be re arranging my house cause he brought it down then....i was already told by the police i can charge him if i want for holding my property but im trying to be nice to him since he wants to be a cop
10:00pmAshley
thats stupid
the cops won't care, so what? he has your junk. he is working alot. he has to feed Taylor and himself, and get reayd for the new baby.
10:01pmKimberly
its my personal belongings that i am going to need in order to look after myself and my son
the cops have cared i have been down to see them...they will press charges if i want to