You... have a boyfriend? Huh... Nick made it seem as though he was basically going down there with the express purpose of setting up dates for you to move down here... he said that was your intention. Did you ever give him that impression? Because he was pretty set on you guys being together. I agree that being a parent is hard and scary. For the past week I've been back I've had someone take Demitri almost every day for an hour or sometimes more. Then again I am going through some extenuating circumstances, and I need to be healthier for my son mentality-wise more than he needs me 100% of the time. However I really feel that although Nick cares for his son very much, it is not in a way a parent should. He puts himself first 99% of the time; he's never even paid into his son's RESP fund and has bought so much trivial crap it's unbelievable. I hope you are right in saying this trip will remedy this, but I think a few things need to happen in order for that to be a reality. The biggest one I think is... really... for you to either cut off any notion of you two ever being together, or just BEING with him. I waited for 2 and a half years for him to stop pining and I just think this shit has gone on long enough. Nick has never faced any real consequences in his entire life; he's very good at getting what he wants. I don't think you care for him as much, or in the same way as he made it out to be (once again, he basically said you guys were together) or else you wouldn't have a boyfriend. So I'm assuming the best thing for you to do, for HIM, is say, 'No, it can't happen, it won't happen, it's not going to happen.' Even if you know that is subject to change, which everything always is, I really think it would be good for him to hear it so he can stop pussyfooting around this notion of true love and a relationship with no problems and just focus on his kid. Then again, everything is up to you, the ball is in your court. By the way, I would really appreciate if Nick didn't hear about our conversation or he might get defensive and ornery. I just want my son to have a healthy and loving father. I don't think Nick will be able to do that without feeling some kind of undesirable consequences to unsavory actions. Only then will he be uncomfortable, and only then will he learn. Unfortunately it is not so easy for him to see things from a moral or logical standpoint when issues of the heart (or penis?) are involved. Feel free to message me back, once again Cheers Ashley King December 16 at 10:52pm eh, i don't have much to say really.... if you want to ask any questions or tell me anything else feel free to ask but what is a RESP? im asuming an account of some sort Jacqueline Cawthorne December 16 at 11:24pm Report MessageAn education savings fund. __________________________________________________________________ so quick up date.... i asked Nick about all the stuff jackie had said and he answered them all with good answers. apearnatly the whole Tammy thing.... she wanted to do stuff but Nick tyurned her down.... i never asked about the dead friend stuff... and ummm ya the fund thing RESP thinger aperantly the bank takes mony out of his account. oh! and the threesome/open relationship apearntly Jackie is bisexual and she wouldn't have any threesomes with girls and none with guys unless she knew themreally good and trusted them. so they never had a threesome that i know of. anyways so garry says i shouldn't tell nick about it but have all my answers and Nick never knew about the other letters that JAckie used to send me i wish i still had them. anyways i'll see what happens