It's really easy to tell someone that you hate them. A lot of people I know just sit there and hate and hate and hate, including my mother sometimes, because really it's so much easier than loving someone. You don't have to have any emotions to hate. It doesn't take any effort on anyone's part at all to flippantly say "I hate them" just because they can. What's hard is really looking at someone--I mean really--and finding something about them to love even if they're always trying to make you sad. Even if they think they hate you, what's the measure of a really powerful person is their ability to just say "I love you", and mean it.