i can't explain how angry it makes me to see my sister so hurt by someone else's selfish words. i find myself feeling caught between wanting to say something and believing i shouldn't get involved. even she says don't get involved because we both know it's the mature thing to do, but i do not agree with the things said tonight, and i completely understand where valerie is coming from.

if i could say something, this is what i'd say in a nutshell:

hey, i don't care about whatever right you felt you had today when you decided it would be okay to attack my sister. we all know you're a passionate person and your opinions once made rarely change, but in a case where someone's feelings and comfort weren't in the least bit spared, there should be a time soon that you realize how wrong you can truly be. to believe that any act or situation gave you the right to pry and blame and talk down to is an illusion. it may be that you see what you want to see in situations in which you wish you could say what you want to say. but there is no excuse for the stress, frustration, and tears you caused on val's part, not even your own impression of the situation. you got what you wanted in the end, to not be "out of the loop", but calling up my sister and telling her she has no respect for friends and implying that she believes her friends to be judgemental people are acts triggered by assumptions that instead caused you to both disrespect and judge her. valerie may have forgiven you, but your apologies only go so far when you state "i'm sorry i hurt you, but i stand by what i said earlier". that statement takes none of the pain away, and if i have to listen to anymore intellectual rants about any of the wrongs people have done you, then i'm just going to look you straight in the eye and say learn to accept people for how old-fashioned, ignorant, or PRIVATE you may think they are because you, no matter how strong-willed and passionate you may be, do not have the power to change people. if you make my sister cry again, i'm going to say something. i want you to be my friend, but you do not know enough about people to sit back and tell my sister what is wrong with her.

i hate situations like this. i love her, but my sister deserves just as much respect as she does. and out of bitterness imma say probably more!