i hope i don't get sick. the invitations are literally going to have to make themselves.. i'm so over them. this place is a mess.. for the record.. when i have kids.. they're going to be good. lol. i know everyone says that and sometimes it just unpreventable or un.. "parentable" lol yes thats a word... but generally its the parents fault how the kid turns out.. and influences and environment and blah blah blah.. but thats the main thing... and i think i'll be a good parent... i'd venture to say a great one.. and i dont want to sound like a know-it-all or naive in the situation... but... what is soo hard about it? seriously... the problems parents have is that.. they are either too over the top protective and controlling... or the most hands off people in the world who just want to be their friend. its a balance people. thats how its done. you don't get anywhere controlling your kids but i think you get a little further than if you just try to be their friends and look the other way when they are COMPLETELY out of line. thank god for tim. i know he'll be a good dad. and i know if my 14 year old daughter.. little girl whether she thinks she is "mature" or not.. i know that if she was dating an 18 year old... he wouldn't allow it. its funny how people just do absolutely nothing because of fear. fear of what? a little girl? what can she do? nothing will get done if people keep turning away. let them do whatever they want? thats ur great plan? its bullshit. no offense to those who have chosen to look away but its your fault. but what can sensible people, like myself, do about it? when you are fueling the fire? its not a big deal because no one has made it a big deal. until the day they break up and she continues to date older MEN because its "OKAY". men. its so ridiculous. i said i want to send my daughter to an all girls school... people think that would make her more rebellious... how? because public school has proven the opposite? no.. i went to public school and i wasn't dating 18 year old men... i wasn't dating at all. no its not where she goes to school that will influence her decisions.. its parenting. and i sure as hell know that if i did have a kid and my mom was like grandma... and i had to give them up... she'd be the last person I'd give them to. my kids are going to have goals. and plans. and i am going to help them get what they want. you don't make crappy decisions when you are on a path. well a good one anyways. its like when you get crappy parenting... you are destined to fail.. no.. its like you want it. my kids wont feel that way. they're going to be smart. I'm so sick of people saying kids are growing up too fast but doing nothing about it.. first of all, its your own damn fault. and second, no they aren't... they are just getting themselves involved in stupider situations. you don't have to be old to make a bad decision. and bad decisions shouldn't be considered old. it just pisses me off because the solution is so easy but the only people capable to change the situation are idiots. i am on my period. that movie the fall, was good in the beginning.. and then its like the guy stopped being creative and it just went down hill... what a symbolic title.