"Martha and Richard" sent us a card in the mail.. well they sent Tim and Jeni "Fries" a card in the mail.. its like if you don't even care to get the name right after hearing it spelled out a bajillion times, don't bother. by the way "Martha" and "Richard" are my grandparents.. i almost thought it was a nice gesture until i read that they signed it "Martha and Richard" and in parenthesis (Grandma and Grandpa). I thought i was reading too much into it but Tim agreed it was weird when she has never done that before... and more weird especially during this time when everyone in my family is well aware of how outcast i feel.. and to sign it with their names instead of "grandma and grandpa" not even a "love" Martha and Richard. Its just like a slap in the face. and she writes under that, "hope to see you at your moms on Christmas".. ??????? what is that? she knows that we have absolutely no intention of joining anything with my mom and my brother until he apologizes and she apologizes. even my grandma herself has reason to apologize but they are all so stupid. and stubborn. they call me stubborn.. but who is the one that showed up over the years, in the same situation..? me. i wanted apologies then too but i put it aside and went because they are "family". Over the last few years they always give me reason not to want to come to these things. i learned my lesson. i ignored my lesson on several occasions and unfortunately had to learn it again. so no. this year i had a lovely Thanksgiving with just me and my wonderful husband and I look forward to a lovely Christmas with just me and my wonderful husband. assholes not included. I just wish everyone would realize for once. it isn't me who is disappointing them. its Jason. and any complaints they have about me not coming to Christmas, they need to address with him because i am through having absolutely everyone push my feelings aside just so they can keep the peace. EF the peace. where is that attitude when my mom has a problem? or Suzy? or absolutely anyone else? why am i always told to be the bigger person? So "Martha" and "Richard" can have a nice Christmas with their own people just like them, and they can all pretend everything is fine together and forget about me. I hope it happens soon so I don't get anymore junk mail.