So apparently I forgot about my "experiment" I mentioned in my previous post. About not backing up jason when he is talking Bout mom. Cuz 1. its hard not to back someone up when they talk about her because no one used to back me up and i know how she is. and 2. i forgot. and 3. I guess I'm just not a jerk like that. but it does suck. but whatever. i wont let it bother me. so we confronted sal and stephnie about the not coming to our stuff or just not coming over period.. and idk. on one hand it ended ok and he said theyd work on it. on the other hand.. within that conversation 2 other things are pissing me off now. it just doesnt end with him. stephnie is fine. great even.. we like her a lot. but sal has been pissing me off more and more and more lately. it is truly exhausting being friends with him lately. and by lately i mean for the last year or more. everything is a competition with him, always has to one up us, everything is on his terms and in his time, he's condescending and patronizing and makes the most offensive comments about things he knows nothing about, he is a know it all and the list goes on and on. I am truly over it. Last night the thing that really pised me off is that he knows i have aspergers but when it is mentioned he makes very rude and offensive comments that show he obviously has no idea what it is at all but thinks he does. its fucking annoying. and we think its so annoying that every time we have an issue ... they suddenly have one too.. and what was it? oh right the same thing that we have a problem with. only theirs is completlely invalid because our issue.. the reason we cant come to things is something we cannot change... hear wait a second let me just pop out a baby. not all of us are baby making machines. geez. and his excuse is not valid because its ridiculous.. paige has allergies and that sucks but they havent even tried bringing them over. not even with the new laminate floors and not even after we moved the cats to my moms. they never once tried bringing her and giving her a childrens allergy medication before and tried it out. kids do not die from allergies. if she got sniffly.. leave. its not a big deal. it is not life or death. they really milk it beyond belief. they have non drowsy allergy medication, i mean there are peole who HAVE pets and pet allergies.. there are VETS that have pet allergies. it is possible to be around pets with pet allergies. its not rocker science just research for like 5 seoncds. freaking ridiculous.. amIrite? on the phone he's like telling me that we have to speak up when we have problems... uh... ok hypocrite... you JUST said you also had a problem right after I said we did... and the ONLY reason yyou even said anything is because we did! if we hadn't brought it up.. you certaintly wouldn't have. and we HAVE brought up stuff in the past. they have not. ever. because we are really great friends to them. they said it was okay that we didn't come to the baby shower. we explained why and apologized. they said over and over how ok it was... and then suddenyl they had an issue with it the whole time? ridiculous. sal talks to me like i am a child. he takes an extremely authoratative tone with me and i am getting really sick of it. the only reasons the conversation ended how it did is beause i resigned because i didnt want to argue and because i knew his lunch break was almost over. but we are still pissed, and we both dont know if it is worth the stree to try to fix something that most likely will not be fixed because of unwillingness on their (his) part. i am so sick of one sided friendships and tim isn't really used to one sided friendships.